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 Yes, do go on Mr. Ham: We return to our long-awaited feature on relationships, and what passes for them. Without further ado, Mr. Bag. Mr. Paper Bag: There has been some feedback that it is kind of hard to visualise numerical ratings as previously mentioned, and I have therefore arranged for a demonstration. Please refer to the projected image:  (Source: flickr.com) This illustration is not wholly accurate since the faces are averaged after classification on HOT or NOT, and averaging is known to boost attractiveness by eliminating asymmetries and blemishes. Anything above a 6.5 here, and about an 8 in real life, tends to get increasingly subjective. Be aware that, due to ratings inflation, one is hard pressed to discover anything lower than a 9 on HOT or NOT these days (the above photos were compiled in 2006). What cannot be denied, however, is that the highest-rated half is objectively prettier than the bottom few pictures. Yes, people are superficial like that, deal with it. This can be attributed mainly to two factors: fat and apparent age. Observe, for instance, how subject 4.0-4.4 might do a passable impression of subject 7.0-7.4 by the simple expediency of shedding some pounds. Mr. Ham: Let me change the subject before we get hammered by weight acceptance groups. Last we were talking, we were on the topic of marriages drying up... Mr. Paper Bag: Yes, that. Well, on this topic, I would like to cover two opinions, which happen to be made by sensible Christians, on their blogs; the lady suggested that women who need a mate should consider settling with a guy on the same wavelength, even if she didn't have any physical attraction to him (quote: "wasn't repulsed by him") The guy, who was even more sensible, instead said: Don't settle. Please. The reason? "She isn't just harming him, but putting her children through great pain as well. Aside from stealing his wealth and children, she also stole his opportunity for great happiness. The truth is another woman would likely have found this same man quite attractive and lovable. She had no right to rob him of that because she lacked the capacity to reciprocate love but still wanted all of the benefits of marriage..." It so happens that today's The New Paper headlined a performer from China who has openly declared her intent to snag a Singaporean guy, despite finding them arrogant, chauvinistic, short (that again) and not even good-looking (which as we have seen, is hard to achieve). Tellingly, this comes on the heels of a very wise ruling by China's Supreme Court that whoever buys the matrimonial home gets to keep it, bucking the accepted Western practice of splitting the assets near-evenly even if the marriage was short-lived.  (Source: dilbert.com) Mr. Ham: And thus the homemaker bubble pops. Mr. Paper Bag: Ah, but I have found the solution *rummages through briefcase*, and it is Game.  Mr. Ham: You can't be serious, Mr. Bag! Mr. Paper Bag: As a matter of fact, I am. Mr. Ham: But it's... it's wrong! Mr. Paper Bag: In what sense? Mr. Ham: Well... Mr. Paper Bag: See, the truth of the matter is that attracting the opposite gender is a skill like any other. Would you blame a person for studying to pass an exam? Surely not! He may not have been the smartest to begin with, but can through effort improve his lot - surely you would not begrudge him even that? Mr. Ham: Well... no. Mr. Paper Bag: How about public speaking? Do you think it is "fake" for somebody to pick up a copy of Dale Carnegie, so he can match up to those who are gifted at narrating to crowds? Mr. Ham: I suppose not. Mr. Paper Bag: And what about girls who accentuate their features using lipstick, make-up and wired clothing? Are they not again supplementing natural talent with external aid? Mr. Ham: I guess so. Mr. Paper Bag: I can then see no reason why you should object to what is essentially the male version of cosmetics. It may not be substantial, but it works, so why should only the guys who are "naturals", who have "gotten it" by themselves, reap all the benefits? Your dad was one of those, I recall. The finer details, like what angle to approach a seated girl at, or what canned opening lines are best, together constitute perhaps millions of forum postings by affection-deprived lads, but the fundamentals are surprisingly few; confidence is always good, as is social proof - as you have no doubt observed, getting popular with women tends to bring more of them, in a happy cycle of positive feedback. Going back to the gripe about people not actually being that attracted by virtues they profess to value - why should, say, intelligence, be an auto-win button? Why would it be superficial to prize looks in a partner instead, since both attributes are composed of both a genetic and an applied component? Mr. Ham: Rule Number One in the Ham household is indeed not to believe women when they talk about what they want. But let us not attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity, or perhaps self-delusion in this case. Mr. Paper Bag: It is mostly true, however, that women do want what other women want, regardless of whatever intrinsic value that thing actually has, a principle that is exploited in Game. Another basic principle is to raise one's perceived value, either directly or indirectly, above that of the target. One good example is the practice of "negging", or putting down the girl that you actually desire. Mr. Ham: What, you humans need a book to teach you how to tease females? The mind boggles. Mr. Paper Bag: As I have taken pains to point out, some are more natural at it than others... However, the crown jewel of Game is simply not to be afraid of rejection, and this is where self-confidence (and a thick skin) comes in. Basically, no matter how expert a Casanova is, he will still fail a good deal of the time, in the same way that the best baseball sluggers bat less than 50%. The nice thing is, if all he is concerned about is getting laid, and even assuming that 90% of women he finds acceptable are indeed wise to his natural behaviour/lowdown tricks (a figure that is likely on the high side), this just means that he has to approach ten times on average to be set for the night. Mr. Ham: Wait, something doesn't quite add up here... Mr. Paper Bag: Yes, there is the matter of "love". The sad thing is that it counts for little in practice, and can even be a negative if it causes the male to put the female on a pedestal. The sorry state of affairs is that one can't lose if one doesn't actually love all that much, which ironically tends to spur more affection. Somehow, girls never seem to suspect that a particular guy is so in-tune with her largely because he has had a lot of practice - either that, or they don't care, and expect to be his last girl despite likely not being in his first dozen. Mr. Ham: The old "bad boys win" tripe? Mr. Paper Bag: I'm afraid so. Mr. Ham: My condolences. Mr. Paper Bag: Oh, don't. Knowledge eventually conquers all. Mr. Ham: I suppose that's the end of this series, then, and we should be seeing a new direction for the mr.ham show when we return. Till then, have you petted your hamster today? Next: Week of Eats
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